Who you are and who you aren’t. Who you are is not what you have done or have. The thing is though, we so very often define ourselves by what we do or by what we have. This is fundamentally flawed for we can never do or have enough. Thus, when we think things about ourselves such as what we haven’t done or can’t do, or we have thoughts that we don’t want we run the risk of defining ourselves by those unreachable or unwanted things.

Simply put, I don’t believe everything that I think and I do believe that my thoughts are just that: my thoughts. Neither what I think nor what I do define who I am. I believe that I am a child of God and nothing can separate me from His love for me (Romans 8:38-39).

I sincerely want that belief for you too. If that isn’t this case for you then please consider this final thought: you are a created human being and what you think and do are just outcomes from you. They can’t define you as a human being, unless you let them make that false claim, that is. Separate what you think and do from who you are. You will find it hugely releasing.

A very happy new Year in 2015 to you all!


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“The #mind is an #infinite of #possibilities so fix your eyes on #God (not your difficulties!) and #dream the impossible dream.” S. Long

Fix your eyes on God

“… it is often easier to fight for principles than it is to live up to them.” A Stevenson


“The #perspective on an issue is distorted when so close to it. It looks much bigger than it really is. #Step away and the issue now looks smaller. You can now see other things around you more easily too. ” S Long

“‘A watched pot never boils’ so be careful to what you are #attending. If you #fix your eyes on what you don’t want (fear, anger, jealousy…) it ‘won’t boil’ either and that means it can’t go away.”


“Whatever you give your #attention to remains. Attend to faith, hope and love; not fear, anger and obsession.” S. Long

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Have a look at your #Safety #Behaviours (avoidance tactics). Which one is #challengeable to start to #break it?
Design a plan of action. Test it and see what happens!


















Figure above – The cognitive behavioural model of social anxiety devised by Clark and Wells 1995.  This version was adapted from Butler 1999.


“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” – Jim Rohn

Discipline is the bridge

“Hang on a minute!” – A very useful phrase to say, when all those NATs come along your way. – S Long.

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Want to #change one thing about another person? Start with #yourself, and end there.